a- link to original post
b-what circumstance do I believe lead to this post being written?
This sounds to me like a solid appreciation post. To remind oneself that firstly that it is okay – and perhaps even necessary – to love oneself. Secondly to realise that through loving yourself you have love in your life. You can be kind to yourself and that it is okay to feel this way.
c-whatβs the central idea or message?
And that is perhaps the central message – or at least one of them – that loving yourselfΒ isΒ okay. ItΒ isΒ necessary and one should give oneself the proper rom-com experience from time to time. Simply because you’re worth it. We all are.
d-whatβs the tone of the post (The author’s attitude toward the subject)?
The tone is curious, it’s light and self-reflective. It shows how she has worked hard about this, and that she hasn’t been used to this feeling too much. It wasn’t something that felt “normal” and that it took her some time to realise what she felt and for whom.
e-whatβs the mood of the post? (The overall atmosphere or feeling the post creates)?
The mood is a bit heavy at first. It shows almost some sort of loneliness in her struggle to find the love, but as the revelation comes, it opens up like a warm day in spring. It turns warm, joyous, free and sort of liberating.
f-how does the post make you feel?
It makes me feel good. It feels good to read her words, and to feel her emotions in them. I can sense the world around her as she walks around and smiles at people and the people smiling back. I can picture her with her new dress, I can see her in bed reading books and enjoying her time with herself. It simply feels good.
g-what do you like about the post?
I think I like everything about this post. The arc, the way she makes herself feel, how she actually are able to embrace this feeling. It is simply good.
h-what do you dislike about the post?
I’m not sure anything in this post is not to like. It would perhaps that the feelings she describes are hard to find within myself?
I-what questions does the post leave you with?
I’m not sure I am left with that many questions. Perhaps one would be: How to find this within myself? Or how can I help her or support her with keeping these feelings about her?
j-do you connect with the post? Why or why not?
I connect in the sense that I can feel her joy, her love for herself and how she looks at things in it. But it is hard to connect to have these feeling towards myself. But it really makes me want to look for it, find it and nurture it.
a- link to original post
b-what circumstance do I believe lead to this post being written?
I believe what prompted this post is what it says in the third line: “It is beyond me why you would want to be with someone that you had no desire to get to know.” I think there is some sort of – almost – bewilderment behind it. It makes no sense to her, and it is something that perhaps sounds hollow or uncaring about it to her? That the desire behind isn’t about necessarily the person, personality or traits. It is shallow and lazy.
c-whatβs the central idea or message?
That she likes these things, and she will not excuse herself for liking them. They are important to her, and if you are to be with her, you have to either like the same things or accept to be driven “batty” by her.
d-whatβs the tone of the post (The author’s attitude toward the subject)?
The tone here is light, humorous and silly, but it holds a deep seriousness at the same time.
e-whatβs the mood of the post? (The overall atmosphere or feeling the post creates)?
The mood strikes me as light at first. Almost made to be a funny piece. But there is a sincerity and seriousness in it as well. She speaks about the stress from the last year – living through covid will do that to a person – and her interactions with people. How she thinks about things and how she acts when she is connecting to people.
f-how does the post make you feel?
At first I enjoyed myself. Reading, thinking back and reminiscing about the time when I first started to talk to her. But then the guilt comes sliding in and starts reminding me of what I ended up doing. How I, myself, showed no big interest in her and her own interests and likes. I acted indifferently or even dismissively about things she shared with me. I even went as far as making fun of her for liking certain things. It leaves me feeling like a proper asshole. I feel like absolute shit thinking back – not on that time specifically, but my behaviour towards her. She was made to feel bad for having the interests she did, and for liking things she did.
g-what do you like about the post?
I like the initial feeling I got from it. The writing itself is good and its kind of funny to read.
h-what do you dislike about the post?
The things I am left with when I think about how I did these thing to her. How I dismissed and showed her either disinterest or right down made fun of her for liking her things.
I-what questions does the post leave you with?
“what the hell was I thinking?” is the first that comes up. I don’t understand why I behaved and said the things I did. I made it sound like I hated MCR, that I didn’t like her goth/emo style, that I really didn’t like anything about her likes and interests.
j-do you connect with the post? Why or why not?
In a way I do. I understand what she is talking about, and why I am writing about this post now. At the same time I feel some kind of disconnect as well, but I don’t think that Β feeling is directed at the post, but more towards myself, my behaviour and what I did. There’s just so many things about what I did that makes absolutely no sense to me now.
