a- link to original post
b-what circumstance do I believe lead to this post being written?
I remember the days leading up to this weekend – or the last few weeks really – had been rough on her. I hadn’t been the best person around and I abandoned her while she was sick with covid on New Years eve. There were a few other things that got out in the light around this time, and I suppose those things helped prompt her to write about the horrors in this post.
c-whatβs the central idea or message?
I think the central message here is to tell about how she was raised in an environment hostile to her. Where she never found safety or belonging. This became what she knew. And it made her perhaps more of a target for predators – to make the suffering continue, never giving her the nice things that life can offer someone.
d-whatβs the tone of the post (The author’s attitude toward the subject)?
The tone is dark. It is heavy, but still quite and to the point. It is almost more questioning in its wording, but it still hold a lot of pain from her experiences of childhood neglect and abuse.
e-whatβs the mood of the post? (The overall atmosphere or feeling the post creates)?
It creates a picture of hardship and horrors. How a little girl never grew up surrounded with the most basic of emotional needs.
f-how does the post make you feel?
I feel absolutely horrible reading this post. I have read it before, and have heard her tell me before how she grew up, but still it is like being punched in the stomach every time I read or hear about her story. It also hurts thinking about how I hurt her as well. How I didn’t give her the small signs of affection I promised her. I just perpetuate the abuse she suffered, and helped instead make things worse for her.
g-what do you like about the post?
I am not sure if there is anything to really like. The language is, as always, beautiful and she tells her story so well. But the story itself is just horrible. And it got punctuated with the music video added to it.
h-what do you dislike about the post?
The story, the fact that these things are true and actually happened to her, how she has continued living a life without safety and that she have to carry all those memories with her.
I-what questions does the post leave you with?
I don’t think so… I feel kind of numb.
j-do you connect with the post? Why or why not?
I connect in the way that I feel empathy and sympathy for her. I feel I understand what she is saying, but I have no way to truly connect to the horrors she’s talking about. Though I have had things in my childhood, there is nothing that can be compared to any of this. Not even close.
a- link to original post
b-what circumstance do I believe lead to this post being written?
I think the circumstances behind this post is partly the help she’s been giving me over the last years, and this last years in particular, perhaps. We agreed upon a deal where she would help me figure out of myself, and it became much more demanding than anticipated. And over the last couple of months this has gotten worse. I have understood less and less, and I have needed more and more help, despite her efforts in making things easier for me to understand.
c-whatβs the central idea or message?
How sometimes a “position” ends up taking over you life. The pay is minimal, if any at all, and you are expected to give your absolute best in every regard. The demands are never-ending, and the gratitude nonexistent.
d-whatβs the tone of the post (The author’s attitude toward the subject)?
It is a post filled with what I would perhaps call frustration and exasperation. It is the result of something she didn’t sign up for, but that she couldn’t step away from.
e-whatβs the mood of the post? (The overall atmosphere or feeling the post creates)?
The post shows a feeling of being used. Used in ways way beyond what intended and wanted. Too much demanded, and nothing given back.
f-how does the post make you feel?
It makes me feel awful. I am a big part of the reason to why she have felt like this, and still does. I feel useless and stupid because the things I had to do wasn’t that complicated. But they went over my head, and I needed more help than I should’ve needed, and I didn’t express that in a way I should have.
g-what do you like about the post?
I like the language and the way she uses her words – as always. I like the format and the writing itself.
h-what do you dislike about the post?
I don’t like the subject, or rather the need for this post to have been written, and my part in it.
I-what questions does the post leave you with?
I’m not sure if I have any… I feel as if I have asked more than my share of questions about things, and I can’t think of any at the moment.
j-do you connect with the post? Why or why not?
I connect in the way that it is written about me. I can see and feel her exasperation and frustration in the demands and all the extra work I asked from her. And I feel terrible, and sorry about it all.
