Fighting the current

Regulation is the invisible infrastructure.

Regulation looks boring.

It seems that breathing more slowly can help when your brain wants to spiral.
It looks like not texting the person who represents the old pattern.
It looks like eating and sleeping like someone whose future assumes stability.
It looks like tolerating the quiet.

I have lived through real chaos. Real unpredictability. I did not imagine that. So, of course, your system learned to equate intensity with aliveness.

Calm can feel like absence.

But calm is not absence. It is safe.

There is a brutal irony here. We think we want expansion, but our bodies crave coherence. So the task becomes widening the nervous system’s definition of “safe.”

Not by convincing it verbally.
By showing it repeatedly, it becomes clear that nothing catastrophic happens when you stay in the new state.

Neuroscience calls this exposure and integration. Spiritual language calls it persistence. It is the same thing.

Each time you stay instead of retreating, you are updating the survival algorithm.