(started rewatching at 13.38)
This is a very important video. It shows how a predator operates, and how they do it. The methods used in grooming can look quite benign and as nothing more than a person actually being helpful. The major differences are of course the manipulation that is used towards their victim. How they use emotions to confuse, excuse and justify that they are doing things towards the victim. It is also important to note how this doesn’t only occur towards children, but can be done towards people at all ages. Exploiting and abusing people doesn’t seem to have an age limit.
I have done these things towards people. I have manipulates and sought out people I have been able to use to my own emotional and sexual benefit. I haven’t done this towards kids, but towards women. I have shown predatory tendencies and used emotional manipulation and gaslighting to control, alienate or isolate women and kept them away from help and friends. I have hid major parts in my life and have hid these women as well.
This wasn’t something I was aware I was doing until it was printed out to me how I behaved, how I treated women, talked about them and how I acted towards other people that I seemed to genuinely care about. I lied to most of the people in my life causing them harm and pain. I am glad I have been made aware of this thing within me, and I am trying to understand how I have thought/seen things, and how I have done these things and why. There is no excuse for this type of behaviour and there is no way to apologise enough for what I have done. I will apologise, and promise to never treat anyone like this again.
