PLAYER WORKSHEET β SHAME & FEAR (STATUS EFFECTS, NOT IDENTITIES)
Part I β Identify the Status Effect
(No fixing. No judging. Just naming.)
Current dominant state (check all that apply):
β Shame
β Fear
β Guilt
β Avoidance
β Freeze
β Hyper-vigilance
β Numbness
β Other: _____________________________________________________________________
Where does it show up first?
(body, thoughts, behaviour β be literal)
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Part II β Decode the Message
(Every status effect carries information.)
Shame usually says:
β βI am bad / brokenβ
β βI should hideβ
β βI donβt deserveβ
β βIf Iβm seen, Iβll be rejectedβ
Fear usually says:
β βSomething bad is comingβ
β βI am not safeβ
β βI will lose controlβ
β βI canβt handle whatβs nextβ
The specific sentence your system is running right now:
βIf this is true, then_____________________________________________________________________.β
(Write it exactly as it appears. No softening.)
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Part III β Origin Check (Not Blame, Just Source)
This belief came from (circle one or more):
β Childhood environment
β A specific person
β A past relationship
β A single defining event
β Cultural / societal messaging
β Survival necessity at the time
β I donβt know yet
Was this belief ever useful for survival?
β Yes
β No
β Iβm not sure
If yes, how did it protect you then?
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Part IV β Update the Game Mechanics
(This is where Love enters β not as a feeling, but as a system override.)
Old rule (still running):
βWhen I feel _____________________________________________________________________,β¨ I must _____________________________________________________________________.β
New rule (Love-State Rewrite):
βWhen I feel _____________________________________________________________________, I now _____________________________________________________________________.β
Examples:
β’ βWhen I feel shame, I stay present instead of disappearing.β
β’ βWhen I feel fear, I slow down instead of abandoning myself.β
Write your own:
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Part V β Love as Counter-Spell
(Choose one β Love does not argue, it absorbs.)
When shame or fear activates, I will apply:
β Love for the body (rest, warmth, touch)
β Love for truth (naming what is actually happening)
β Love for boundaries (leaving, saying no, disengaging)
β Love for context (βThis is old data, not a prophecyβ)
β Love for continuity (βThis state will passβ)
My go-to counter-spell in one sentence:
_____________________________________________________________________β¨β¨ _____________________________________________________________________β¨β¨ _____________________________________________________________________
Part VI β Reality Test (Very Important)
Answer honestly:
Does this emotion feel like a current danger β or an echo?
β Current
β Echo
β Unsure
If itβs an echo, name what time it belongs to:
_____________________________________________________________________β¨β¨ _____________________________________________________________________β¨β¨ _____________________________________________________________________
(You are allowed to stop responding to echoes.)
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Part VII β Integration (No Heroics Required)
One small action that keeps me in Love-state today:
(not a transformation, just a choice)
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DM NOTE (FOR THE CODEX)
Shame and fear do not disappear through force. They dissolve when they are seen without exile. Love does not erase them. Love ends their authority. They were never enemies. They were messengers who stayed too long.
