Forgiveness is for you and no one else. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciling with the person who upset you or condoning the action. In forgiveness, you seek the peace and understanding that comes from blaming people less after they offend you and taking those offences less personally. Give up expecting things from your life or other people that they do not choose to give you. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, friendship, and prosperity, and work hard to get them. However, these are “unenforceable rules:” You will suffer when you demand that these things occur since you do not have the power to make them happen. Amend the way you look at your past so you remind yourself of your heroic choice to forgive ♡