As a child, I remember asking why being truthful was so important yet people still seemed to lie (a lot).
My mother grew impatient with me and said something about lying being a career choice for some people.
I did not understand why anyone would purposely desire doing something deemed bad.
As I grew, I learned that truth is the thing that connects reality to consequence.
Without it, nothing means anything.
People struggle with truth not because it is unclearβbut because it is expensive.
Telling the truth can cost you:
β’ Your image
β’ Your relationships
β’ Your comfort
β’ Your control
β’ The version of yourself you want to believe in
And most people will do almost anything to avoid paying that bill.
Some other notes that I have jotted down:
1. Truth is how reality stabilises
If I say one thing, do another, and then explain it awayβyou cannot trust your experience anymore.
Truth says:
βWhat happened, happened.β
That is the ground you stand on. Without it, everything becomes fog.
2. Truth is what makes repair possible
You cannot fix what you refuse to name.
βI was confusedβ β nothing gets repaired
βI lied to you because it benefited meβ β now we have something real to work with
Truth is the doorway. Not forgiveness. Not intention. Truth.
3. Truth protects other people
Lies are hardly neutral. They transfer harm.
When someone lies, they take away your ability to make informed choices. Your perception becomes distorted.
And then they use the truth against you.
While truth restores your agency.
4. Truth requires identity, not performance
To tell the truth, you have to say:
βThis is who I am. Even when it is ugly.β
This tends to be terrifying for people who are used to being liked, admired, or perceived a certain way.
So they perform instead.
5. Children understand truth instinctively
To a child:
β’ Lying = wrong
β’ Hurting someone = wrong
β’ Saying sorry = means you stop doing the thing
Simple.
Adults complicate it because they learn how to protect themselves from consequences, not how to become better people.
So the real answer?
Truth is important because it is the only thing that makes relationships, accountability, and growth real.
Without it, everything is just theatre.
